Figuring Out The Relations In My Life....

The theory is people come into your life for a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime; when you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person. Its the figuring out part that is hard to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON...It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a Godsend and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. Sometimes they die. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. Your need has been answered, and now it is time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON...It is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Some relationships are often times best viewed from the outside or in retrospect/hindsight, others you know from the start what kind of relationship, or lack thereof, it will be. There is something so impersonal about categorizing relationships, but it is definitely something to think about as you come to junctures in your life. Who do you take with you on your life's journey and who do you leave behind?